Your self-confidence is the value and belief you place in yourself and what you can achieve. As a human resource it is an incredibly powerful tool as it allows us to stretch ourselves, to take risks, to try hard and achieve.  When we consider self-confidence what we are really looking at is how we think and feel about ourselves. To be self-confident is to have a feeling of trust in your own judgement and abilities. We will experience a lack of confidence when wanting to do something that we feel too anxious, nervous or worried about.   Factors that affect self-confidence There are a variety of reasons that affect our self-confidence. These can range from exceptionally difficult life experiences or perhaps a series of events or feelings that have had an effect on how we view ourselves and our place in the world. Some of the most common factors include:
  • Ongoing stress
  • Mental health issues
  • Employment issues
  • Bullying or abuse
  • Divorce or a difficult personal relationship
 Boosting Confidence If you think that a lack of confidence is holding you back then here are a few ways to improve your self-confidence to make sure it doesn’t hold you back any longer… Avoid talking negatively about your self Negative self-talk can really have an impact on your confidence. So, the first step is to check your thoughts. If you wouldn’t talk about someone you respect negatively, then don’t talk about yourself in that way. It’s about giving your thoughts a positive makeover. Be around people who love and support you If you spend time with people who treat you badly then this will have an impact on how you feel about yourself. Think of it as, a sort of chain reaction…spend more time with people who respect and care for you and you will soon start to notice how it filters down… how you feel better about yourself and your own worth. em>Challenge yourself Easier said than done! However, this could be about taking up a new hobby, an educational course or perhaps a fitness class. The key point here is to set yourself an achievable goal because reaching it can really make you feel good about what you can do in the future. Recognise your own positives Creating a more confident you is all about developing a positive mental outlook. Take the time to acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small. Choose to remind yourself of things you do well, such as, being a good friend or good at your job… Looking for the positives in yourself is not about being arrogant it’s about creating confidence.   Being confident in what you can do, in your judgements and your abilities is a key element of mental wellbeing and contentment.